Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Becoming An Effective Leader - TRCB

Encouraging Ourselves


Encouraging Ourselves

Encouraging words are motivating. When we encourage somebody, we give them a gift of courage. It compels them to move forward. Knowing that somebody wants us to succeed and encourage us towards success brings in us the desired confidence. Here are few tips to encourage ourselves.
Let go the Negative Thoughts: Let go of those negative thoughts. We should be in control of our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. Why should we rely on a negative set of beliefs? If we want to succeed, we can. We just need to encourage ourselves!
Good Marks Exercise: We should give our self good marks on doing some thing positive. Make a mark on our hand every time we do something right. By the end of the day, we will have a hand covered in with marks. Each mark is something good, something positive. We should give our self a hug or a pat on the back for each right thing we do.
Mistake or Learning Experience: Mistakes are acceptable in the process of learning. Minor mistakes lead to major success. We must learn from our mistakes and focus on our positive work done.
Give the Gift of Courage to Our self: We must give the gift of courage to our self. We deserve to be courageous in everything we do. Encouragement goes a long way, and makes us able to do things we had never done.

Monday, November 30, 2009


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Thursday, November 26, 2009

Major Areas for Self Improvement



Major Areas for Self Improvement : Khalid Nasr

1. Self Esteem - create positive self esteem to achieve your goals and create personal growth.
2. Personal Organization - develop your personal organization skills to help you take control of your life.
3. Health and Fitness - create the level of energy needed to follow through each day.
4. Career Achievement - use continuous self improvement and achieve much more in your career.
5. Positive Relationships - create the self improvement needed to have positive relationships.
6. Personal Development - Develop yourself into the person that can take on any of life's obstacles.
7. Quality of Life - self improvement will increase your quality of life.

Tips For Empowering Beliefs - TRCB

Tips For Empowering Beliefs - TRCB

Five Tips To Get Self-Confidence - TRCB

Five Tips To Get Self-Confidence - TRCB

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

The 10 Qualities of a Successful Executive



The 10 Qualities of a Successful Executive : Khalid Nasr

A successful executive is admired and respected by his co-workers and readily accepted by his clients. He is honorable, dependable and trustworthy. His boss considers him as one of the valued staff in the entire company. A successful executive share some common qualities of other equally successful executives. Here are the key qualities:


1. Personal packaging: He is meticulous and he dresses smartly and appropriately. His appearance gives others a sense of self-confidence and self-assurance.

2. Self-confidence: A belief in himself that he can get things done. He works with certainty and without hesitation.

3. Ambitious: He is very proud of his profession and he works effectively to achieve his short and long-term goals. He knows what he wants in life and he pays undivided attention to achieve his objectives.

4. Enthusiasm: He shows passion and keen interest in his work. He speaks with energy and confidence that inspires others.

5. Continuous renewal of skills: Learning new skills is very much a part of a successful executive’s life. He wants to stay ahead so he keeps himself up-to-date.

6. Excellent people skills: He listens with full attention to what the other person is saying before taking action. He is empathic because whatever he does he considers the feelings of others.

7. Keep promises: He delivers what he has promised in a timely fashion. He builds up a reputation that people can count on him to get things done.

8. Health and fitness: He is fully aware that a healthy and fit body is a prerequisite for vitality and a source of abundant energy. He exercises regularly.

9. A balanced life: He looks after his family just the way he looks after his career. There is a time that he devotes his attention and love to his family members. Success in life is more than just a rewarding and satisfying career.

10. Stay calm under pressure: Working under pressure is unavoidable. The trick is to stay cool and calm and still be able to work with full concentration and wear a smile on the face.


“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm,” says Sir Winston Churchill.

The 3 Pillars of Success – IQ, EQ and AQ



The 3 Pillars of Success – IQ, EQ and AQ :     Khalid Nasr

Every day we need to make wise decisions and solve complicated problems. We also have to manage our self well so that we can deal with others in order to get things done. In addition, we have to face the challenges of ups and downs in life. We need the three pillars of IQ, EQ and AQ to excel.


Intelligence Quotient

An intelligence quotient is an attempt to measure a person‘s intelligence. According to the International High IQ Society, a high IQ is an advantage in life because virtually all activities require some reasoning and decision-making. Conversely, a low IQ is often a disadvantage, especially in disorganized environments. Of course, a high IQ no more guarantees success than a low IQ guarantees failure in life. There are many exceptions, but the odds for success in our society greatly favor individuals with higher IQs.


Emotional Quotient

According to Daniel Goleman, author of the best-selling book, Emotional Intelligence, emotional quotient means:

Self-awareness: The ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions, and drives, as well as their effect on others.

Self-regulations: The ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods
(The propensity to suspend judgment- to think before acting)

Motivation: A passion to work for reasons that go beyond money or status
(A propensity to pursue goals with energy and persistence)

Empathy: The ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people
(Skill in treating people according to their emotional reactions)

Social skills: Proficiency in managing relationships and building networks (an ability to find common ground and build rapport)


Adversity Quotient

Dr. Paul Stoltz, the originator of AQ, founder and CEO of Peak Learning, defines Adversity Quotient as “the capacity of the person to deal with the adversities of his life. As such, it is the science of human resilience.” A person high in AQ means he is able to deal with problems quickly and effectively.


The 3 pillars of success

The threes skills of an effective executive, according to Robert L Katz in his famous article, Skills of an Effective Administrator, are:


Technical skill
Human skill
Conceptual skill


To me, IQ is likened to be technical skill, EQ is human skill and AQ is similar to conceptual skill.

While IQ is your area of expertise, EQ is you ability to manage yourself and others effectively. AQ is the ability of a person to bounce back in the face of failures and setbacks. He will review the whole situation and come up with an action plan and move on from there. The person may be down, but he is not out.


IQ, EQ and AQ are truly the three pillars of lasting success.


15 Positive Emotions of a Successful Executive




15 Positive Emotions of a Successful Executive

A successful executive is someone who has mastered the following skills:


Technical skill
Human skill
Conceptual skill


Not only that, he has a high emotional quotient and he generates the following positive emotions:


1. Flexible: He is willing to listen to others and accept the best course of action even though it is not his idea.

2. Passionate: He takes his job whole-heartedly. He enjoys his work and likes the challenges that come with the job

3. Energetic: He works with full concentration and his performance is at his peak

4. Motivated: He is looked upon as a valued employee and he is encouraged to be more productive and more effective.

5. Curious: There is never a dull moment while he is at work He is always on the lookout for new trend or development within and outside the company. By doing this he is on top of things.

6. Empathetic: He cares for his co-workers as much as he cares for himself. Whatever he does, due consideration is given to others around him.

7. Positive: He looks at things on the bright side. And he is always looking for the strengths of a person rather than his shortcomings.

8. Happy: He wears a smile at the workplace and he acknowledges people warmly when he meets them. The workers sense a feeling of acceptance.

9. Creative: As a problem solver, he is resourceful and innovative

10. Courageous: Once a decision is taken he will take action immediately even it may be a new project without proven results.

11. Confident: He is very sure of himself to get things done. His high self-esteem is a moral support for other staff

12. Optimistic: He has an optimistic outlook in life. He always expects success and good things to happen.

13. Enthusiastic: He is excited about his work and he looks forward to each new day with high hope.

14. Focus: He gets into the flow of things while he is working. He is not easily distracted.

15. Calm: He may be working under pressure but he works calmly. He will not show negative emotions such as anger at the work place.


Positive emotions facilitate productivity and effectiveness and also promote good health and well-being.

Monday, November 23, 2009

ABC of Positive Emotions


ABC of Positive Emotions


These are my favorite positive emotions in alphabetical order:




Appreciative: You take note of what others have done for you and you express your gratitude and appreciation



Belief: Have full confidence in yourselfYou believe you can do it and be successful



Calm: You are not disturbed. You feel at ease and collected.



Delightful: Listening to a piece of soothing music or reading an inspirational article gives me a delightful feeling



Enthusiastic: I look forward to each new day with excitement and high hope



Forgiving: Don’t fill your heart with grudges against others. Forgive and forget and you will feel peaceful and calm inside your heart.



Good-natured: Be kind, be friendly and be good to others and treat yourself just the same.



Happy: Happiness is contagiousWhen you are happy you are also spreading happiness to the people around you.



Inspired: I am inspired by great articles on the Net and they inspire me to do the same



Joyful: Be joyous, be cheerful. You can make a choice. You can also feel down and out. However, life is short and unpredictable so just be merry.




Kind: Kindness begets kindness. Random acts of kindness bring cheers to others and satisfaction to yourself.



Loving: Love yourself, love your family and fill the world with love as it is filed with hatred and vengeance.



Motivated: Be interested and be encouraged. As an example I am motivated to write and post an article a day.From the statistics provided by addthis.com I am happy and delighted to note that my articles are being bookmarked, printed, emailed and added as personal favorites by my readers.



Neat: When your house is clean and tidy, the neatness vibrates a feeling of serenity in you.



Optimistic: Expect good things and success to happen. Positive expectations bring you joy and happiness. .



Positive: Look for the good in people and situations. Expect the best to happen.



Quick: A feeling of alertness in you that you are ready to take action immediately. There is a sense of preparedness.



Relaxed: It’s a valuable asset to feel relaxed in this hurried world. Your mind is peaceful and in that particular moment time seems to stand still.



Simple: Do not make life complicating .Be simple and easy without clutter.Allow things to flow smoothly.



Thankful: Be thankful to God that you are alive and kicking. Count your blessings instead of your troubles.



Understanding: It means you are open-minded and you are not stubborn.You are also empathetic.



Valued: Are you being valued as a person? It’s a great feeling to know that you are valued by others.



Wonderful: When you wake up in the morning tell yourself that it is going to be a wonderful day and you look forward to it with positive expectations.



Xmas-spirited: There is a feeling of giving in the true spirit of Christmas. You are thoughtful of your friends and relatives. .



Youthful: When you have a youthful feeling, you are full of vitality and it has nothing to do with your age



Zealous: I have a feeling of abundant energy, and I am ready to start a new day with zest



The 12 key factors of success



The 12 key factors of success


1. Positive mental attitude: Your attitude decides who and what you are, and whether you respond to events under control or out of control. You cannot hope to control event that comes your way. But you can control the way you react to such events by adopting a positive mental attitude.

2. Total belief in yourself: Have confidence in yourself. Believe in your abilities, for you are who you think you are. You have the necessary skills and abilities to accomplish great things. You need only accept this fact to move ahead with your life.

3. Big, challenging goals: A strong sense of purpose in life is essential to all change and meaningful improvement. With a clear, central purpose comes directions, meaning, and positive expectations. With each step of progress comes a sense of fulfillment. With fulfillment comes a sense of pride, satisfaction, and other good feelings associates with high self-esteem and high self-worth. “Happiness,” wrote Emerson,” is the progressive realization of a worthy goal.”

4. Responsible behavior: The hallmark of all winners is accepting total responsibility for everything they say and do. As a result, they are confident and feel in control. They understand that with control comes freedom of choice and a realization that anything is possible if only they are willing to pay the price to earn it,

5. Time Management: Time management is really self-management. It is a thinking exercise that involves setting priorities and disciplining yourself in the use of time in order to derive maximum benefit.

6. Personal development: Personal development involves working on yourself, on the key mental skills that you must contribute to the performance equation. The more you improve yourself, the more you’ll like, respect, and believe in yourself.

7. Health: You must work hard at maintaining a high level of health and accept responsibility for all of your actions that are health-related. There is no cure for a lifetime of bad health habits.

8. Creativity: Your subconscious is a vast storehouse. It contains the wisdom of the past, the understanding of the present, and the vision of the vision. By tapping into its vast reserves, you can create new thoughts about anything you choose to think about.

9. Service: When you get right down to the root meaning of success, you will find that it simply means to provide service. And the more service you provide, the more success you will have. “To do more for the world than the world does for you, that is success,” according to Henry Ford.

10. Excellence: Only when you attain excellence in your chosen field can you hope to become truly successful in life. Anything less and you cannot hope to reach your full potential. Be the best that you can be.

11. Superior human relations: There are three principal ways to develop key interpersonal skills that lead to superior human relations. The first involves adding value to other people through recognition, the second is seeing things from another’s point of view; and the third is effective listening skills. Successful human relations is really the art of making other people feel good about themselves.

12. Leadership: “To be a leader, an executive must first develop himself and then help develop those for whom he is responsible,” says Koestenbaum.

Interpersonal Skills




Building a lasting relationship with another person does not require effort. When you do things sincerely you will act naturally. There is nothing for you to hide from the other person. When you have ulterior motives your actions will not be genuine and it will show sooner or later. Here are the secrets to make you likable:




  1. Be trusted: Do it on the day and at the time as promised. Allow others to build the trust in you especially for the first time. First impression is vitally important.


  1. Be Sensitive: Be alert and always ready to take action on opportunities to do things for others. People will be pleased and surprised to notice your responsiveness.


  1. Be courteous: Courtesy is a way of life. When you are polite it means you respect others.


  1. Be humble: Don’t be boastful and try to show other that you are better. Just remember that in life there are always people out there better than you are.


  1. Be friendly: There is no other way to be a friend but be a friend.


  1. Be sincere: Sincerity is honesty and honesty is the best policy. You don’t want to be acquainted with someone that you are doubtful about


  1. Be empathetic Be considerate of other people in whatever you do. Your actions will be supported and respected by others


  1. Send a gift: When you visit someone take a gift with you. It will be a delightful surprise for the person that you are visiting.


  1. Be kind: When you do good to others, they will return to you more of the same gesture. Most people are just as kind.


  1. Be caring; Find out more about the family of the other person that you are talking to. Check out their interests and get to know more of their background.


  1. Be appreciative: Always remember the kind deeds that others have done for you. Express your appreciation as soon as possible.


  1. Be attentive: Pay attention while you are talking to another person. When you are attentive it tells the other person that you are interested


  1. Provide service: When you do more for others you will get even more in return. It is a “karma” effect.


  1. Praise more and criticize less: Be generous with praise and cautious with criticism. If you have to do it, do it in private.


  1. Wear a smile: Happiness is contagious. When you meet people with a smile you make them happy too. It is such a wonderful way to start a conversation.


  1. Accept people as they are: Do not judge a book by its cover. Just accept people as they are. You never know you may be able to learn a lot from another person that you meet.


  1. Be enthusiasticDisplay your energy and show yourself that you are active. Your enthusiasm will inspired others to be close to you.


  1. Be flexible: Be open-minded and willing to accept what is the best course of action from other people. Do not be stubborn




Connecting the right way with people will propel you to greater success in life.

10 Secrets of Mental Health




10 Secrets of Mental Health

When you are mentally healthy, you are able to adapt yourself to the harsh environment and promote a healthy relationship with others and lead a stress-free life. Here are the ten secrets of mental health:


1. Positive self-image: A positive self- image means a high self-esteem. You are able to accept your own strengths and weaknesses. You change what can be changed and accept what cannot be changed. You express yourself freely about your feelings and opinions. You may not agree but you respect the views of others. Most important of all you are able to face negative encounters with positive emotions and live happily.

2. Learn from the past, plan for the future and live the moment: You are able to learn from your past mistakes and without dwelling too much on them and plan carefully to meet the challenges of the future. However, you have also mastered the art of living in the present which you have full control.

3. Able to control your emotions: A person with high EQ is able to understand and control his own emotions so that he does not behave in such a way that is harmful to himself or irritating to others.

4. Be socially connected: Make friend and be connected with others in society. The interaction with people is a source of satisfaction and happiness. Involve in community projects and help others. You should also find that your job is enjoyable, interesting and meaningful.

5. Avoid negative psychological factors: Whenever your mind is filled with negative thoughts replace them quickly with positive emotions. Eradicate such negative emotions like anxiety, stress, suspicion, fear and worries. Negative emotions are detrimental to psychological health.

6. Early treatment and recovery from mental sickness: When you are not well you seek treatment early and be cured sooner. It is the same thing with mental illnesses. Do not allow the situation to deteriorate. Get professional help early to be healed and maintain your psychological health.

7. Resilience: It means you are able to bounce back from setbacks without losing your confidence and optimism and also your sense of perspective.

8. Personal money: Manage your finance well. When you live within your means you have no money problems and it means a carefree life.

9Physically active, a balanced diet and sleep well: Eat your breakfast, exercise every day and sleep soundly for about 8 hours are all important routines for mental health and stress management.

10. Relaxation: Relaxation is a good way to maintain your mental health. Unwind yourself after a hard day’s work. What do you like to do – meditation, Tai Chi, Yoga, massage, deep breathing, music or gardening?


Mental health is just as important as physical health. Promote mental and physical fitness for your happiness and well-being.

15 Tips to Manage Stress

15 Tips to Manage Stress

Here are the top tips to manage and release stress:


  1. Your Job: Find meaning in your work. Your job should be your passion and interest. What you do is useful to others and you get satisfaction out of it.

  1. Face the world as it is: Do not be unduly disturbed by what is happening to you. React calmly to negative encounters in life.

  1. Hopeful: Look forward to the future with high hope and expectations. Great hope provides energy for you to carry on living every day.

  1. Appreciate yourself: Forget about what you have lost or what you don’t have. Instead enjoy what you have now.

  1. The way to look at failures: Failures are your stepping stone to success. With each failure there is a lesson learnt and a step closer to success. Look at failures positively.

  1. Be healthy and fit: A healthy body and a healthy mind is the best way to manage stress effectively.

  1. Do your best: Do not look for perfection in whatever you do. Just do it and do your best.

  1. Turn a crisis into an opportunity: Every cloud has a silver lining. Be positive and look for opportunities in adversity.

  1. Emotions: Be alert to your own emotions and act accordingly. When you are not in a positive mood don’t take action. Do it when you feel at ease.

  1. Exercise: Regular exercise is one of the effective ways to release stress.

  1. Self-Management: Self-management is time management. Plan your work and work you plan allow you to do your tasks smoothly and thereby avoid stress,

  1. Resilient and bounce-back ability: Promote your ability to face setbacks squarely and positively. The idea is not to allow failures to hinder your progress in life.

  1. Review your goals: Perhaps you have set too high a goal that it is beyond your reach. Revise your goals to a level that is achievable and life will not be so stressful.

  1. Mindfulness: When you concentrate fully on the task at hand you forget about thoughts that are stressful.

  1. Ways to relax: Choose and incorporate one or more methods to relax yourself: meditation, yoga. Tai Chi, music, gardening, video games, deep breathing, auto suggestion.

The Ways of Success - TRCB

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Friday, November 20, 2009

Skills For An Effective Manager


Skills  For An Effective  Manager                                                                                                                                                                                                              • Tactical and logical thinking
• Formulating plans and carrying them through
• Patience
• Ability to concentrate
• Memory
• Imagination
• Independent thinking and self motivation
• Analyzing positions and evaluating them on a continual basis
• Spatial relations
• Pattern recognition
• Importance of timing and gaining tempo
• Visualizing goals and achieving them
• Learning to differentiate between positions and scenarios
• Selecting importance levels when making decisions
• Focusing attention
• Problem solving
• Thinking outside the box

Sex Decrease Stress - TRCB

Sex Decrease Stress - TRCB

Conduct Expected of A Manager




Conduct Expected of A Manager                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Responsibility:
• Being accountable for one's actions.
• Being dependable in carrying out obligations and duties.
• Being reliable and consistent in word and action.
• Being committed to your community.
Integrity:
Showing the inner strength and courage to be truthful, trustworthy, fair and honest in all things; acting justly and honorably.
• Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do
• Have the courage to do the right thing
• Build a good reputation
• Be loyal — stand by your family, friends and country                                                                                                                                                       Self-discipline:
• Being in proper control of one's words, actions, impulses, emotions and desires.
• Demonstrating hard work, perseverance and commitment to achieving goals.
Caring:
• Being kind, considerate, courteous, helpful, friendly and generous to others.
• Being compassionate by treating others as you would like to be treated.
 Fairness :
• Play by the rules
• Take turns and share
• Be open-minded; listen to others
• Don’t take advantage of others
• Don’t blame others carelessly                                                                                                                                                                                    Citizenship :
• Do your share to make your school and community better
• Cooperate
• Get involved in community affairs
• Stay informed
• Be a good neighbor
• Obey laws and rules
• Respect authority
• Protect the environment                                                                                           

Handy Skills For Success - TRCB

Handy Skills For Success - TRCB

Personal Development - The 7 Areas of Your Life to Take Control - TRCB

Personal Development - The 7 Areas of Your Life to Take Control - TRCB

Monday, November 16, 2009

Dressing for Success

Dressing for Success

Offshoring and Outsourcing

Offshoring and Outsourcing

What Makes a Good Boss? Would YOU Ever Appreciate Having a Good Boss?

What Makes a Good Boss? Would YOU Ever Appreciate Having a Good Boss?

Motivating Employees: Understand the Five Types of Motivation to Get the Most from Your Employees - TRCB

Motivating Employees: Understand the Five Types of Motivation to Get the Most from Your Employees - TRCB

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How to Trigger Great Ideas

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The Six Elements of Self-Esteem Building

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Sunday, November 15, 2009

Power & Politics in Pakistan - TRCB


Power & Politics in Pakistan - TRCB

Bewilderment of Democracy - TRCB


Bewilderment of Democracy - TRCB

Literacy Rate & Street Crimes in Pakistan - TRCB


Literacy Rate & Street Crimes in Pakistan - TRCB

Effective Leadership Skills - TRCB


Effective Leadership Skills - TRCB

Making It Happen ! - TRCB


Making It Happen ! - TRCB

How To Reprogram Your Self To Success! - TRCB

How To Reprogram Your Self To Success! - TRCB

Seven Tips for Success

 


Seven Tips for Success

These tips may help us to succeed:
1- Set Goals :  A set of written goals enables us to have a purpose each day to work toward. We may have short term goals to achieve each day as well as long term.  We are all individuals so we all have different goals. Once we  have developed a goal,  we must keep negative thoughts like failure, fear, anger and envy away from our mind.
2- Willingness to Learn  : We must keep our mind open to new ideas. What worked yesterday may not always work today or maybe not the best way today. View our mistakes as opportunities rather than something to avoid at all cost. Willing to learn new things will make our business and life run better.
3- Perseverance and Patience :  Success is often just around the next corner or over the next hill during our race. So often it’s lost on the one yard line. In success we show must patience. We can’t fail if we don’t quit.
4- A Plan : Create a sequence of actions and corresponding time-frame. Take time to do some initial planning, using your daily, monthly, and quarterly goals as a guide. Without a plan, our dreams will remain our dreams, and not a reality.
5- Responsible : When  we fail, we admit it and move on. We should get back up and do it right the next time.  Realize that we learn from every mistake we make, and every obstacle in our path serves to make us stronger and better. You let your actions speak louder than your words. You accept responsibility for your actions and learn from them.
6- Vision  or Ability to See into Future : The ability to look ahead, see the future, imagine the good that can and will come from your hard work will motivate you.
7- Friends  in the line of  Success : Everyone who achieves much success does it with the help of countless others. People become successful because they help other people, and people like them. Associate with people who will encourage . Acknowledge that for every step backward, there is one or more forward steps that bring you closer to your goals.


 






Seven Laws of Happy Relationships




 

Seven Laws of Happy Relationships


 There are seven simple laws we can learn and use. These laws will guide us towards the most appropriate actions >
Law #1 - There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available wherever you are: Many live with the idea that love is scarce -there’s not enough to go around and that they must cling to whatever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. It is never necessary to cling to someone out of fear of being alone.
Law # 2 : Know Who You Are And What You Really Want: Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied. But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. A healthy relationship is an expression of two people, both equally valuable. In this kind of relationship you discover all you have to offer and how to offer it.
Law #3 : Don’t Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You :Actively choose different places to go and individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.
Law #4 : Enjoy Honest Communication: Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to make another happy. Don’t give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The key to all happy relationships is mutual respect & acceptance and open & honest communication.  When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.
Law #5 : Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person : Let everyone be who they are, including you. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person  is cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.
Law # 6 : Know Difference Between Real and Fake Love: Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It is infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over; it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy. Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn “to-do love”. Do love and you will be loved in return.
Law #7  :  See the Best In Others - And In Yourself : What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points and let them know about them, the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity.
Law #7 : 1/2- The Master Law ---When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue: Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You’ve come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don’t try to control when time comes to go. Realize that if the person is supposed to be with you longer, they will return on their own. The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it’s time to let go, thank the person for all you’ve received from them and let go.


Tips for Happy Relationship

 


10 Tips For A Happy Relationship          These days more than 20% of all marriages in Pakistan fail for some reason.Often when people break off their relationship, something is missing. The "spark" has gone out of the partnership/commitment.

People who have been married a long time made a decision to love their partner and work at their commitment.
 These 10 tips will help  in creating spark in  relationship:
1. Lighten up:  Don’t get so serious all the time and break the tension. Create some fun for yourself and your partner.
2. No Arguments: You two may be different in your opinions in areas like politics and religion, avoid those topics. Talk about things you enjoy and have in common.
3. Time For Each Other: Set up specific times when you can get together. It doesn’t matter what you do; shopping,  movie, events. Put it on your calendar and make sure you keep the appointment.
4. Start Over: Remember when you first met? What sparked the relationship? Were you doing new and exciting things together? Well, do it again.
5. Forgive Each Other: Before you forgive your partner, forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves another chance. Get over it and get on with your lives.
6. Touch: Your body loves to be touched. Do it for your partner; play with their hair, rub their hand, a soft kiss, a pat on the leg, back rubs, foot rubs. But do it in an affectionate way, not sexual.
7. Some space: Being together all the time may be cramping you and your partner’s style. Spend some time apart. Let him go hunting/fishing, while you go to the library or a concert.
8. Surprise : Do something on the spur of the moment. Surprise your partner and do it together.
9. Secret Getaway: Plan a trip or a place, where the two of you can be alone. Take your time and enjoy each other. Take it slow and make it romantic.
10. Communicate: A lot of times when relationships are having problems, the talk stops. Here is where you need to learn to listen to each other. Each of you should be able to just talk about anything and everything. Don’t make any judgments. Listen. Let down your guard, no yelling or arguing. Just talk to each other.

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