There are seven simple laws we can learn and use. These laws will guide us towards the most appropriate actions >
Law #1 - There is never a lack of relationships. Relationships are abundantly available wherever you are: Many live with the idea that love is scarce -there’s not enough to go around and that they must cling to whatever comes their way. This idea can cause them to get involved with the wrong person, or stay in a relationship that is toxic for them. It is crucial to realize that relationships are plentiful. It is never necessary to cling to someone out of fear of being alone.
Law # 2 : Know Who You Are And What You Really Want: Many enter relationships hoping that it will give them a life, or make them feel better about themselves. They may want their partner to take care of them, or give them the approval they’ve been denied. But it is of the utmost importance to know and respect who you are, to enjoy your own company and be aware of your own values and goals. A healthy relationship is an expression of two people, both equally valuable. In this kind of relationship you discover all you have to offer and how to offer it.
Law #3 : Don’t Keep Choosing The Wrong Person For You :Actively choose different places to go and individuals who are different from those you usually meet. Become stronger than the pattern. Turn you life around.
Law #4 : Enjoy Honest Communication: Without the ability to say No, we cannot say Yes. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to make another happy. Don’t give up that which is meaningful to you for the sake of a friendship. The key to all happy relationships is mutual respect & acceptance and open & honest communication. When a person really feels listened to and accepted they feel loved.
Law #5 : Don’t Try To Change Or Fix Other Person : Let everyone be who they are, including you. So many of us are obsessed with changing or fixing everyone. This is not friendship, but manipulation. . Many believe that if the person is cared enough, they would certainly change for them. This is not so. Find out who the person you are with really is. If someone feels accepted, they can change themselves, if they want to.
Law # 6 : Know Difference Between Real and Fake Love: Feeling happy, high, excited or attached to a person, feeling possessive or dependent is not love. It is infatuation, ego thrills or dependency, usually based upon fantasy. Inevitably, fantasies fade. People then feel that the love is over. It is not over; it’s just been a form of counterfeit love. We must learn the difference between real and counterfeit love, between love and fantasy. Counterfeit love always involves struggle and pain. Real love never does. Real love is a verb. It is not based simply upon feelings, which come and go, but actions. It is important to learn “to-do love”. Do love and you will be loved in return.
Law #7 : See the Best In Others - And In Yourself : What we see in others, we bring out in them. If we focus upon their negative points and let them know about them, the negativity will increase. When we focus upon what is good in that person and let them know, this brings out the best. The better a person then feels about themselves, the less need they have for negativity.
Law #7 : 1/2- The Master Law ---When They Come We Welcome, When They Go We Do Not Pursue: Understand that each relationship lasts for a certain time. You’ve come together to learn from one another, to share, enjoy and often move along. This is not rejection, but growth and change. Change is natural and inevitable. Don’t try to control when time comes to go. Realize that if the person is supposed to be with you longer, they will return on their own. The greatest art of relationships is to know how to let go. When someone new comes welcome them, when it’s time to let go, thank the person for all you’ve received from them and let go.